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HOW WE DISAGREED

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HOW WE DISAGREED. 🤔
(By Latunde Akin)

Friends, please be attentive here. I am about to share my experiences in people. How we fared, fought and also followed peace with one another.

Life in this world is really not going to be smooth if we don’t decide to make it smooth. God will do His own, we will do ours.

What many don’t understand is that we are not really here on earth to satisfy anybody, we are here to satisfy our purpose.

And you may be surprised to know that your purpose might be a stumbling block to a devil. So, you do not expect a devil to allow you go scot free. Never.

Reasons for many challenges we face day after day. What is good to you is actually a bad project against some other people and what is bad to you is actually a food some other elements feed upon.

I remember how I disagreed with Pastor Chikezie on a particular post. The most tensed disagreement so far. It generated intense heat 🤣, but we calmed it. Pst Chikezie has a large heart. Though I pushed him to a wall, he broke the wall, entered and closed broken channel on the wall. He came out through another door and we hugged ourselves 🤣. Hearts with no guile usually understand themselves better on the long run.

I used to tell people that, disagreement of any kind is not always the problem. The problem is how much the parties concerned are ready to follow peace.

Peaceful people don’t usually have problems with disagreement, they usually have problems with people who can’t manage disagreement.

I remembered how I posted about “a wife who doesn’t give a listening hear to her husband is incurring a curse upon herself”. It was just a post from an inspiration and never like I heard anything going on with anybody. This lady immediately popped into my comment session and told me straightaway that I was speaking against her and cursing her. 🤣Jesu Kristi gbami. Immediately I deleted her comment. And from that day I tried to be careful around her.

From the indepth of my heart, I didn’t know about anything going on in her family. She could have asked me inbox, but she didn’t. I think I communicated I didn’t know anything about her lifestyle, that it was just a post from inspirational knowledge. She didn’t want to agree. Infact, I noticed she unfriended later. Such is life, and sometime prophetic preachers face such challenges. Later I started hearing from her subbing posts about those who claim to love but their love is fake. I laughed and moved on.

“Eni je tete lara n fu, emi o je tete ara ko fu mi”.

There are those people we have disagreed and parted ways with , there are people that disagreement has helped us to be more close to each other .

No doubt, we cannot be friends with everyone, but we must always make sure that we are not into anything that personally hurt anyone. And ayone taking a public post in a personal way with you should be dealt with with wisdom.

Why do we always think it is everyone that will be on same page with us? No, never,even your siblings might not. Yet you just still have to understand that, what they count as offense against you is nothing personal.

There is a case with a brother who doesn’t believe in tithe. I made a post about people avoiding people who doesn’t believe in tithe, he came and argued with me. He asked if he should block me, I told him to do whatever he likes. He blocked me and I am fine by it. This is a brother we have physically met before and blessed each other physically. He was so hurt by a disagreement and severed relationship. Must we fail to declare a truth all because we want relationships? No. But the point here is that, we should not always take public disagreement personal,especially when we have chance to settle things amicably inbox.

Christians are set of people that follow peace with all men. We don’t create enmity or more enemies.

A sister’s post was plagiarized by a man, she came to the public and exposed the picture and page of that man. I contacted the man, and he said he is not aware he has hurt someone. Which means that the lady did not privately inform the person about his offense. She assumed that the person was a public thief and must be corrected publicly. I came in to comment that Christians don’t handle offenses such way. We don’t take revenge or take action without letting the offender know. She picked me up in a heated argument, I actually vented anger too on her post. She first barred me from commenting, once I noticed she barred me, I blocked her. People thought I first blocked her, but she first barred me. I tried later to follow peace, but peace wasn’t going that way anymore. She couldn’t listen to my apologies even. No response. You see, we might even be right as a Christian, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t still apologize for any right that is personal and has made others feel bad.

Life is all about growth. We grow to understand ourselves better. If we refuse to grow, we may never be able to manage disagreements that will come on our way.

It is always better we understand as Christians that we need to grow in all the nine fruits of the Spirit and not just in the nine gifts of the Spirit.

Having conscience void of offense towards all men, even when all men might be having conscience full of offense against us.

We must remember Jesus too was never exempted from all men having conscience full of offense against him.

Jesus survived crucifixion and rose on the third day. May we survive our own crucifixion and rise on our own third day. 🤔

Thank you.

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN TODAY’S MARRIAGE; WHAT SHOULD I DO IF I’M IN SUCH CONDITION AS A BELIEVER?

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN TODAY’S MARRIAGE; WHAT SHOULD I DO IF I’M IN SUCH CONDITION AS A BELIEVER?

Domestic violence is a violence or other abuse in a marriage.
Domestic violence could involve any body but I’m looking at it in a family setting between a man and his wife.

Domestic violence includes

  • Physical, verbal, emotional, economic, religion reproductive and sexual abuse.

Many people are going through a lot in marriages today, some Christan homes inclusive. This has caused a lot of harms in homes, churches and the society at large. So many women have lost their lives in the process,men inclusive but women are mostly at the receiving end. And they endure mostly even to the point of loosing their lives. This they do because of:

  1. The love they have for their spouse
  2. Because of their children
  3. What the society will say about them
  4. Because of their faith and religion.

Please when beating and sexual molestation becomes the case in your home, there’s need for separation.

Now in as much as the Bible frowns at divorce, I don’t think it’ll be reasonable for one to remain in an abusive marriage where his/her life is a stake. The same children you think about will still be maltreated, neglected and will be forced to face horrible situations the moment you are gone. The same society you are thinking of what they will say will still blame you for not speaking out on time. Your making heaven is even very slim because I don’t think your heart is clean in that condition. Your bad thoughts, unforgiveness and bitterness is enough to send you to hell. And instead of you to commit murder, I think you should separate if that’s the only option left.

Many women are going through alot. When a domestic violence involves life threatening abuses, there’s need for you to seek for help.

Many women have died in this process. Pls being born again doesn’t mean your brain should be suspended. Yes divorce is a sin but you shouldn’t die either because you are married. You are being asked to keep praying often times, yes but you could do that also while away. Many women are dying silently. Women please speak out in such conditions, don’t keep quiet. Make sure the problem is not from you. Make sure you are not the cause of it.

I have seen a woman beating blue black by her husband. Not once not twice. Infact the man always use cane,belt etc on her. And she’s asked to keep praying. What if she die one day? What if she couldn’t take it any longer and tries to defend herself and kill her partner in the process, what will be her lot?

Women should take the necessary steps the moment they see that things are getting out of hand.

Try to see how you could save the situation by involving your spiritual leaders, your both families,the people your partner respects so much and if there’s no changes please take a break while you pray and take the necessary steps to save your marriage.

Pls note that your being away is for the mean time. Even while away you are to remain and keep your body. It’s not a time to go about messing up. If you do that you are commenting sin. You are to maintain sexual purity. Even when your partner is doing otherwise. The only time remarriage is possible is when one partner is dead. See Romans 7:2,1cor.7:39.

Neighbors should as well look out for their fellow women/men. Please speak out for them. Some of them are in a tight corner and can’t help themselves.

Stay tuned for the next post on this same topic!

Say no to domestic violence.

What’s your take on this? Share your opinion.
Will you allow your daughter, sister, brother,son go through domestic violence?
What will you have them do;the abused?

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LEKKI SHOOTINGS: SANWO-OLU HAS LOST CREDIBILITY, SAYS FSD

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LEKKI SHOOTINGS: SANWO-OLU HAS LOST CREDIBILITY, SAYS FSD

By Oladimeji Ramon

A group, the Federal Social Democrats, says the credibility and integrity of the Lagos State Governor, Mr Babajide Sanwo-Olu, have been diminished by the alleged shooting of #EndSARS protesters by soldiers at the Lekki tollgate on the night of October 20.

According to the group, the Lekki incident has eroded the admiration that Sanwo-Olu won with his handling of the COVID-19 pandemic.

The group, in statement on Sunday signed on its behalf by Olutola Mobolurin, also condemned the harassment of #EndSARS protest leaders through the freezing of their bank accounts and stopping them from travelling outside the country.

The FSD’s statement was titled, ‘Statement by the Federal Social Democrats On the #EndSARS Movement and Violence in the Wake of Lekki Shootings.’

The group said, “Governor Sanwo-Olu, who before now has been credited with responsible and energetic response to the COVID-19 pandemic, has by this one act lost his credibility and integrity for many. He has a big task in regaining the confidence of the public and youths; his credibility gap surrounding what happened at the Lekki Toll Plaza is not helped by the insensitive bluster of Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu at the governor’s residence stating that those who were injured and presumably those who died had questions to answer.”

Though the group condemned the destruction of public assets and looting that trailed the shootings at the Lekki tollgate, it said the mayhem pointed to the alienation of a large number of youths from society by government.

It said, “The so-called hoodlums are the youths that have been denied any stake in society by the self-dealing and state capture that have characterised governance over the last 30 years. Millions of our youths have been uneducated, unemployable and with no meaningful social safety net. Even for the millions who are educated and skilled, long-term unemployment has been their experience in the Nigerian prebendal political economy that serves primarily the interests of public office holders and their cronies.

“Some of the ‘hoodlums’ responsible for the trashing of Lagos are the youths and ‘the toughies’ that many politicians have over the years employed to subvert the democratic process through intimidation of voters and perpetration of violence during elections.”

The group said the organisers of the #EndSARS protests deserved commendation for the resourcefulness, transparency and accountability which they demonstrated.

The group condemned “the growing reports of compilation of names of the assumed leaders and facilitators of the protests for government reprisals.”

It said, “Those that are being targeted are reportedly being prevented from travelling outside Nigeria while accounts of some have been frozen. This is hardly the hallmark of a democratic government that is interested in dialoguing with the youths or learning positive lessons from the #EndSARS protests. It is also a violation of the spirit of government’s acceptance of the 5 for 5 agenda. The President should stop all these acts of witch-hunt.”

The FSD solicited support for the Lagos State Government to rebuild and replace the vandalised public assets.

  • PunchNg

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APPOINTMENT OF WTO CHIEF IN DOUBT AFTER KEY MEETING CANCELLED

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APPOINTMENT OF WTO CHIEF IN DOUBT AFTER KEY MEETING CANCELLED

• Nigeria’s Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala had been expected to be confirmed as leader on Monday

By Richard Partington

The race to find a new leader of the World Trade Organization has been thrown into renewed uncertainty after the cancellation of a key appointment meeting following the US presidential election.

The Geneva-based WTO, which acts as an international arbiter for trading disputes, said it had put off a meeting scheduled for Monday that had been called to appoint Nigeria’s Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala as its next director general.

Donald Trump’s administration opposed her selection in one of its final acts before the US election, despite the former Nigerian finance minister securing the overwhelming backing of the WTO’s 164 members.

The special meeting of the trade body’s general council had been convened to take a formal decision on the appointment. Officials had been set to put forward Dr Okonjo-Iweala as the candidate most likely to attract a majority, after most countries expressed a preference for her over South Korea’s Yoo Myung-hee.

Okonjo-Iweala had moved a step closer to becoming the first woman and the first African to be director of the global trade watchdog after securing backing from the EU, China, Japan and Australia. Liam Fox, the leading Brexiter and former international trade secretary, had run as the UK government’s preferred candidate but failed to win enough support from other countries to reach the last two in the process.

Trade experts said Joe Biden defeating Trump in last week’s election may have led to countries calling for a delay in the WTO leadership race, with the aim of securing the Biden White House’s backing for Okonjo-Iweala after he takes charge in January.

The delay in selecting a new WTO director general comes at a fragile moment for the world economy amid the second wave of Covid-19, and after years of criticism of the WTO and calls for reform from Trump.

The WTO said the meeting would be postponed until further notice, during which time the organisation would continue undertaking consultations with delegations from countries around the world to pick a new leader.

It said in a statement: “For reasons including the health situation and current events, delegations will not be in a position to take a formal decision on 9 November.”

  • TheGuardian

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