HOW WE DISAGREED. 🤔
(By Latunde Akin)
Friends, please be attentive here. I am about to share my experiences in people. How we fared, fought and also followed peace with one another.
Life in this world is really not going to be smooth if we don’t decide to make it smooth. God will do His own, we will do ours.
What many don’t understand is that we are not really here on earth to satisfy anybody, we are here to satisfy our purpose.
And you may be surprised to know that your purpose might be a stumbling block to a devil. So, you do not expect a devil to allow you go scot free. Never.
Reasons for many challenges we face day after day. What is good to you is actually a bad project against some other people and what is bad to you is actually a food some other elements feed upon.
I remember how I disagreed with Pastor Chikezie on a particular post. The most tensed disagreement so far. It generated intense heat 🤣, but we calmed it. Pst Chikezie has a large heart. Though I pushed him to a wall, he broke the wall, entered and closed broken channel on the wall. He came out through another door and we hugged ourselves 🤣. Hearts with no guile usually understand themselves better on the long run.
I used to tell people that, disagreement of any kind is not always the problem. The problem is how much the parties concerned are ready to follow peace.
Peaceful people don’t usually have problems with disagreement, they usually have problems with people who can’t manage disagreement.
I remembered how I posted about “a wife who doesn’t give a listening hear to her husband is incurring a curse upon herself”. It was just a post from an inspiration and never like I heard anything going on with anybody. This lady immediately popped into my comment session and told me straightaway that I was speaking against her and cursing her. 🤣Jesu Kristi gbami. Immediately I deleted her comment. And from that day I tried to be careful around her.
From the indepth of my heart, I didn’t know about anything going on in her family. She could have asked me inbox, but she didn’t. I think I communicated I didn’t know anything about her lifestyle, that it was just a post from inspirational knowledge. She didn’t want to agree. Infact, I noticed she unfriended later. Such is life, and sometime prophetic preachers face such challenges. Later I started hearing from her subbing posts about those who claim to love but their love is fake. I laughed and moved on.
“Eni je tete lara n fu, emi o je tete ara ko fu mi”.
There are those people we have disagreed and parted ways with , there are people that disagreement has helped us to be more close to each other .
No doubt, we cannot be friends with everyone, but we must always make sure that we are not into anything that personally hurt anyone. And ayone taking a public post in a personal way with you should be dealt with with wisdom.
Why do we always think it is everyone that will be on same page with us? No, never,even your siblings might not. Yet you just still have to understand that, what they count as offense against you is nothing personal.
There is a case with a brother who doesn’t believe in tithe. I made a post about people avoiding people who doesn’t believe in tithe, he came and argued with me. He asked if he should block me, I told him to do whatever he likes. He blocked me and I am fine by it. This is a brother we have physically met before and blessed each other physically. He was so hurt by a disagreement and severed relationship. Must we fail to declare a truth all because we want relationships? No. But the point here is that, we should not always take public disagreement personal,especially when we have chance to settle things amicably inbox.
Christians are set of people that follow peace with all men. We don’t create enmity or more enemies.
A sister’s post was plagiarized by a man, she came to the public and exposed the picture and page of that man. I contacted the man, and he said he is not aware he has hurt someone. Which means that the lady did not privately inform the person about his offense. She assumed that the person was a public thief and must be corrected publicly. I came in to comment that Christians don’t handle offenses such way. We don’t take revenge or take action without letting the offender know. She picked me up in a heated argument, I actually vented anger too on her post. She first barred me from commenting, once I noticed she barred me, I blocked her. People thought I first blocked her, but she first barred me. I tried later to follow peace, but peace wasn’t going that way anymore. She couldn’t listen to my apologies even. No response. You see, we might even be right as a Christian, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t still apologize for any right that is personal and has made others feel bad.
Life is all about growth. We grow to understand ourselves better. If we refuse to grow, we may never be able to manage disagreements that will come on our way.
It is always better we understand as Christians that we need to grow in all the nine fruits of the Spirit and not just in the nine gifts of the Spirit.
Having conscience void of offense towards all men, even when all men might be having conscience full of offense against us.
We must remember Jesus too was never exempted from all men having conscience full of offense against him.
Jesus survived crucifixion and rose on the third day. May we survive our own crucifixion and rise on our own third day. 🤔
Thank you.