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Bella has been praying concerning her marital life right from her High School days. What prompted her to do this was an experience of a woman living in their compound whose husband always beats and maltreat.

She usually feels bad whenever this happened and since then she has been committing her future to God’s hands “God please choose the bone of my bones for me o. You know the person whom you removed his rib to make me, you can’t make a mistake because you are the Lord from the beginning to the end, ha! I don’t know how you are going to do it but I pray thee oh Lord, don’t ever allow me to marry a man like baba Jenny” she prayed enthusiastically while tears rolled down her cheeks one of the days she was overwhelmed with the way her neighbour had dealt with his wife.

Ten years later!
“Bro Larry?” She said confusedly “Could he be the one? Lord, I need some clarification on this issue” She prays while pacing her room.

Bro Larry was one of their Youth fellowship members and He has been the one who comes to his mind anytime she prays about her marital life.
She knew how God communicates with her because she has received from Him severally concerning issues of her life but this seems difficult for her to accept. It was probably different from what she expected.
” Okay, God, let him propose if he is really the one. His silence is killing me, God. I trust your choice because you always have good plans for your Children” she prayed and left to prepare dinner

Meanwhile, bro Larry has known she is the will of God for him but he didn’t have the courage to express his mind to her. One day he approached her at the end of the fellowship programme but lacked the courage to make the proposal. He just greeted her and they went to their various homes.
” Hmm, I doubt if this brother is the one,” she thought as she goes “why did he call me when he knew he has nothing to say?” She hissed angrily

Bro Larry on his own was not happy with himself concerning his lack of courage ” I messed up again! What is wrong with me?” He said fuming “Please God, help me!” Immediately he mumbled the word, he heard a voice which says “you were not given the spirit of fear but of power and of love and of a sound mind”

“Hmm, thank you, Jesus,” he said gladly with a broad smile

He finally proposed to her the following day. But we know Sisters nah😃, in spite that she has been expecting something like that, yet, she told him she would pray about it and see him later. Hmmm sisters 😃😃

As she was going home from work the next day, she stopped by one of her friends (Bola)’s house for counsel. She told her the reason for her coming after greetings and chatting
“Wow, this is great!” She said excitedly “You are so fortunate to have known the brother before he approaches you,”

“How do you mean?” Bella asked surprisingly

” Ha! It is a privilege, my Sister. It is not every Sister that is given that privilege. For instance, I have never met my husband anywhere until the day he came to propose”

Her eyes widened “Really,”

“I was just praying about my marital life and busy serving God and He favoured me like Zachariah and Elizabeth that God blessed at their duty post”

“Hmm, God doesn’t owe anybody,” Bella said nodding “please tell me how it happened,” she said with a smile

“On that fateful day, my boss sent me to the Bank to deposit some amount of money. I met a few people on the queue as I entered the banking hall and I joined them. When I finished and got outside, I was about entering my car when I heard my name. I was dazed to see a stranger beaming with smiles when I looked back to see who was calling me, then I stopped and closed my car door. He sauntered towards me beaming with smiles while I watched confusedly because I couldn’t figure out where I had met him before.

“Hmm,” she mumbled with a rapt attention

“He introduced himself as Samson. I greeted him and asked if we have met before and he said no. I asked surprisingly how he knew my name, then he promised to tell me if I could spare him some of my time”

“This is interesting,” Bella said with a curious look

“Where? I asked and he pointed at my car. That is not possible, I don’t allow a stranger inside my car” I told him outrightly and he smiled “don’t you believe in the word of God that says “the Lord is my shepherd?” He asked jokingly
“But I must be wise too,” I said shrugging my shoulders
He chuckled and said “sweet lady, I am harmless don’t be afraid” I smiled and opened the car door for him to enter”

” We stayed in my car while he told me how he has been praying concerning his marital life and how God showed him my picture and my name. Actually, I was surprised to hear that and as I was wondering of how that could be possible, then I remembered Luke chapter 1 vrs37 which says “For nothing will be impossible with God”

” This is wonderful!”

“He said it was God who ordered his steps to the Bank because he was supposed to be in another place at that moment”

” God is awesome!” Bella said gladly

“Hmm” she nodded “you can say that again. Meanwhile, God had told me I would see my husband that day but I was already giving up because the day was almost gone. But God proved His mightiness when I was about losing hope. He ordered our steps and we met each other. In fact, that made me knew more of the great awesomeness of God”

“God is great, He works out His plans and will for His children in amazing ways,” Bella said nodding with a smile

“Ours is to know when God is talking and ensure our relationship with Him is intact. I thank God who chose my husband for me and I always appreciate the opportunity to marry such a loving man. If you’re sure about what has been revealed to you by God and you are so much convinced, you can go ahead unless you are not sure o”

Bella told her she was very sure. She congratulated her and they prayed together.

GOD is still in the business of choosing for His Children who wait patiently on Him. Marriage is a delicate junction in everyone’s life. This is the reason we need to ask for the leading of the one who created us. He is the only one who knows the person He had made to be your marriage partner. Discover how He talks to you and patiently waits till He perfects His work. He can never be too late.
It pays to wait for Him because He would give you the best. THE PERFECT MATCHMAKER is not the servants of God, your relatives or friends. The Almighty God is the perfect matchmaker, allow Him to lead the way. Shalom😊

For I know the plans I have for you “declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future (Jere 29:11)

Written by Funmilola Opayinka as inspired by the Holy Spirit

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Domestic violence is a violence or other abuse in a marriage.
Domestic violence could involve any body but I’m looking at it in a family setting between a man and his wife.

Domestic violence includes

  • Physical, verbal, emotional, economic, religion reproductive and sexual abuse.

Many people are going through a lot in marriages today, some Christan homes inclusive. This has caused a lot of harms in homes, churches and the society at large. So many women have lost their lives in the process,men inclusive but women are mostly at the receiving end. And they endure mostly even to the point of loosing their lives. This they do because of:

  1. The love they have for their spouse
  2. Because of their children
  3. What the society will say about them
  4. Because of their faith and religion.

Please when beating and sexual molestation becomes the case in your home, there’s need for separation.

Now in as much as the Bible frowns at divorce, I don’t think it’ll be reasonable for one to remain in an abusive marriage where his/her life is a stake. The same children you think about will still be maltreated, neglected and will be forced to face horrible situations the moment you are gone. The same society you are thinking of what they will say will still blame you for not speaking out on time. Your making heaven is even very slim because I don’t think your heart is clean in that condition. Your bad thoughts, unforgiveness and bitterness is enough to send you to hell. And instead of you to commit murder, I think you should separate if that’s the only option left.

Many women are going through alot. When a domestic violence involves life threatening abuses, there’s need for you to seek for help.

Many women have died in this process. Pls being born again doesn’t mean your brain should be suspended. Yes divorce is a sin but you shouldn’t die either because you are married. You are being asked to keep praying often times, yes but you could do that also while away. Many women are dying silently. Women please speak out in such conditions, don’t keep quiet. Make sure the problem is not from you. Make sure you are not the cause of it.

I have seen a woman beating blue black by her husband. Not once not twice. Infact the man always use cane,belt etc on her. And she’s asked to keep praying. What if she die one day? What if she couldn’t take it any longer and tries to defend herself and kill her partner in the process, what will be her lot?

Women should take the necessary steps the moment they see that things are getting out of hand.

Try to see how you could save the situation by involving your spiritual leaders, your both families,the people your partner respects so much and if there’s no changes please take a break while you pray and take the necessary steps to save your marriage.

Pls note that your being away is for the mean time. Even while away you are to remain and keep your body. It’s not a time to go about messing up. If you do that you are commenting sin. You are to maintain sexual purity. Even when your partner is doing otherwise. The only time remarriage is possible is when one partner is dead. See Romans 7:2,1cor.7:39.

Neighbors should as well look out for their fellow women/men. Please speak out for them. Some of them are in a tight corner and can’t help themselves.

Stay tuned for the next post on this same topic!

Say no to domestic violence.

What’s your take on this? Share your opinion.
Will you allow your daughter, sister, brother,son go through domestic violence?
What will you have them do;the abused?

By Chika Helen Nwabueze’

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By Oladimeji Ramon

A group, the Federal Social Democrats, says the credibility and integrity of the Lagos State Governor, Mr Babajide Sanwo-Olu, have been diminished by the alleged shooting of #EndSARS protesters by soldiers at the Lekki tollgate on the night of October 20.

According to the group, the Lekki incident has eroded the admiration that Sanwo-Olu won with his handling of the COVID-19 pandemic.

The group, in statement on Sunday signed on its behalf by Olutola Mobolurin, also condemned the harassment of #EndSARS protest leaders through the freezing of their bank accounts and stopping them from travelling outside the country.

The FSD’s statement was titled, ‘Statement by the Federal Social Democrats On the #EndSARS Movement and Violence in the Wake of Lekki Shootings.’

The group said, “Governor Sanwo-Olu, who before now has been credited with responsible and energetic response to the COVID-19 pandemic, has by this one act lost his credibility and integrity for many. He has a big task in regaining the confidence of the public and youths; his credibility gap surrounding what happened at the Lekki Toll Plaza is not helped by the insensitive bluster of Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu at the governor’s residence stating that those who were injured and presumably those who died had questions to answer.”

Though the group condemned the destruction of public assets and looting that trailed the shootings at the Lekki tollgate, it said the mayhem pointed to the alienation of a large number of youths from society by government.

It said, “The so-called hoodlums are the youths that have been denied any stake in society by the self-dealing and state capture that have characterised governance over the last 30 years. Millions of our youths have been uneducated, unemployable and with no meaningful social safety net. Even for the millions who are educated and skilled, long-term unemployment has been their experience in the Nigerian prebendal political economy that serves primarily the interests of public office holders and their cronies.

“Some of the ‘hoodlums’ responsible for the trashing of Lagos are the youths and ‘the toughies’ that many politicians have over the years employed to subvert the democratic process through intimidation of voters and perpetration of violence during elections.”

The group said the organisers of the #EndSARS protests deserved commendation for the resourcefulness, transparency and accountability which they demonstrated.

The group condemned “the growing reports of compilation of names of the assumed leaders and facilitators of the protests for government reprisals.”

It said, “Those that are being targeted are reportedly being prevented from travelling outside Nigeria while accounts of some have been frozen. This is hardly the hallmark of a democratic government that is interested in dialoguing with the youths or learning positive lessons from the #EndSARS protests. It is also a violation of the spirit of government’s acceptance of the 5 for 5 agenda. The President should stop all these acts of witch-hunt.”

The FSD solicited support for the Lagos State Government to rebuild and replace the vandalised public assets.

  • PunchNg

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• Nigeria’s Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala had been expected to be confirmed as leader on Monday

By Richard Partington

The race to find a new leader of the World Trade Organization has been thrown into renewed uncertainty after the cancellation of a key appointment meeting following the US presidential election.

The Geneva-based WTO, which acts as an international arbiter for trading disputes, said it had put off a meeting scheduled for Monday that had been called to appoint Nigeria’s Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala as its next director general.

Donald Trump’s administration opposed her selection in one of its final acts before the US election, despite the former Nigerian finance minister securing the overwhelming backing of the WTO’s 164 members.

The special meeting of the trade body’s general council had been convened to take a formal decision on the appointment. Officials had been set to put forward Dr Okonjo-Iweala as the candidate most likely to attract a majority, after most countries expressed a preference for her over South Korea’s Yoo Myung-hee.

Okonjo-Iweala had moved a step closer to becoming the first woman and the first African to be director of the global trade watchdog after securing backing from the EU, China, Japan and Australia. Liam Fox, the leading Brexiter and former international trade secretary, had run as the UK government’s preferred candidate but failed to win enough support from other countries to reach the last two in the process.

Trade experts said Joe Biden defeating Trump in last week’s election may have led to countries calling for a delay in the WTO leadership race, with the aim of securing the Biden White House’s backing for Okonjo-Iweala after he takes charge in January.

The delay in selecting a new WTO director general comes at a fragile moment for the world economy amid the second wave of Covid-19, and after years of criticism of the WTO and calls for reform from Trump.

The WTO said the meeting would be postponed until further notice, during which time the organisation would continue undertaking consultations with delegations from countries around the world to pick a new leader.

It said in a statement: “For reasons including the health situation and current events, delegations will not be in a position to take a formal decision on 9 November.”

  • TheGuardian

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