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A neighbour was seen shouting and knocking on Lola’s door.

NEIGHBOUR: Mr Niyi! Open this door now! Don’t kill this woman o. Stop beating her or else I would call Police on you (she shouts as she banged on the door)

MR NIYI: (From inside) Stubborn woman, dirty woman, elenu rirun ( The one with a stinking mouth). I will teach you the lesson your Parents refused to teach you, nonsense! (He opened the door, hissed as he saw the neighbour, pushed her with his shoulder as she was trying to rush in and went out in annoyance while the woman went in and she met Lola where she was weeping with their only daughter)

NEIGHBOUR: Mummy Tolu, what was your offence this time? (she asked as she entered) You have to do something about this o because things don’t have to continue like this. Ha, ha, why will a man be beating his wife every day like this? (She said fuming and went to their kitchen to bring ice block to use for her swollen cheek and body. She left after she had helped her to treat it but came back after a few minutes)

MUMMY TOLU: Thanks so much for your love (She said as she opened the door for her)

NEIGHBOUR: How are you feeling now?

MUMMY TOLU: I am okay (she feigned smile) thanks so much

NEIGHBOUR: It is okay, what are friends for? But how come a beautiful, nice and good woman like you end up with this kind of man? (She asked with a look of concern) I am sorry for my curiosity, I didn’t mean to hurt you

MUMMY TOLU: It is a long story

NEIGHBOUR: I wouldn’t mind if you could share it with me

MUMMY TOLU: Hmm (she shook her head sadly), my sister, it is now I know that Marriage to the wrong person could jeopardise and ruin one’s future (she said as tears welled up in her eyes)

NEIGHBOUR: Hun un (she nodded)

MUMMY TOLU: I was a child of God and a regenerated one who knows how God talks to her at the time I got married (Tears trickled down her cheek) but I failed in the area of marriage because of impatience

NEIGHBOUR: Hmm (She shook her head)

MUMMY TOLU: I have been praying for God’s will in marriage since the day I gave my life to Christ (She continues while wiping her face) I rejected marriage proposals of the men that came on my way because they were not the will of God for me but it got to a time that it seems nobody was interested in me, and I was worried, that was the time my husband showed up.

NEIGHBOUR: Hmm, (she nodded)

MUMMY TOLU: He asked me out on a date. That was how we started our relationship before he proposed and I accepted in spite of God’s warning

NEIGHBOUR: But you know dating is not the best way to choose a marriage partner nah

MUMMY TOLU: Yes, I knew. I knew it is for those who don’t know how God talks to them or who can’t wait patiently on God but I still embrace it because I thought I was late. I could no longer wait on God (Fresh tears started rolling down her cheek), I was thinking of my mates and younger ones who were getting married, I went for my own choice instead of God’s choice for my life (she broke down in tears) I didn’t think of the life I would live in the marriage but was comparing others to myself. See what I am passing through now (She continued sobbing)

NEIGHBOUR: (She moved close to her and rubbed her back pacifyingly) Hmm, the word of God that says “the heart of man is desperately wicked, who can know it? Is true. Nobody can know it except God and that is the reason we need Him in in everything we do in life

MUMMY TOLU: God warned me severally but I ignored it. Instead of listening to what God was saying, I started praying to make me one of the lucky few people who chose through dating (she burst into tears) I am learning my lesson now but in a hard way (She said as she cries) what I need now is God’s mercy, mercy!!! Because I have already missed it. Hmm (she shook her head with a regret) I desired a happy and Godly home where I would be loved and care for (saying amidst tears) but see where I found myself because of impatience

NEIGHBOUR: This is serious (She said with great concern and pity)

MUMMY TOLU: The most painful part of it was that; (She wiped her tears) a month after I got married, a brother from another Church went to our pastor to tell him that God told him I was his wife. I heard this later and was so sad. I would have waited a little more (she said sadly)

NEIGHBOUR: Why can’t he come before the wedding? Why after? (she asked pitifully)

MUMMY TOLU: God brought him to show me He didn’t forget me. Since then, I have been praying for God’s mercy and that I will continue to do until He answers me

NEIGHBOUR: This is a great lesson to all the singles o, Kai! (She muttered)

MUMMY TOLU: A great lesson indeed. They need to know the mind of God before they go to the altar with anybody. Had I known, I would have been patient a little more (She shook her head in regret) but I believe God could still turn things around

NEIGHBOUR: Hmm, but I would advise you to give him a break if he refuses to change o (she advised)

MUMMY TOLU: Thank you so much, you are really a friend indeed (She said as she wipes her face)


For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end, it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay (Habak 2:3) Shalom

May God help us not to be too slow or fast than Him in any way in Jesus name. Thanks for reading! 😊

Written by Funmilola Opayinka as inspired by the Holy Spirit

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Domestic violence is a violence or other abuse in a marriage.
Domestic violence could involve any body but I’m looking at it in a family setting between a man and his wife.

Domestic violence includes

  • Physical, verbal, emotional, economic, religion reproductive and sexual abuse.

Many people are going through a lot in marriages today, some Christan homes inclusive. This has caused a lot of harms in homes, churches and the society at large. So many women have lost their lives in the process,men inclusive but women are mostly at the receiving end. And they endure mostly even to the point of loosing their lives. This they do because of:

  1. The love they have for their spouse
  2. Because of their children
  3. What the society will say about them
  4. Because of their faith and religion.

Please when beating and sexual molestation becomes the case in your home, there’s need for separation.

Now in as much as the Bible frowns at divorce, I don’t think it’ll be reasonable for one to remain in an abusive marriage where his/her life is a stake. The same children you think about will still be maltreated, neglected and will be forced to face horrible situations the moment you are gone. The same society you are thinking of what they will say will still blame you for not speaking out on time. Your making heaven is even very slim because I don’t think your heart is clean in that condition. Your bad thoughts, unforgiveness and bitterness is enough to send you to hell. And instead of you to commit murder, I think you should separate if that’s the only option left.

Many women are going through alot. When a domestic violence involves life threatening abuses, there’s need for you to seek for help.

Many women have died in this process. Pls being born again doesn’t mean your brain should be suspended. Yes divorce is a sin but you shouldn’t die either because you are married. You are being asked to keep praying often times, yes but you could do that also while away. Many women are dying silently. Women please speak out in such conditions, don’t keep quiet. Make sure the problem is not from you. Make sure you are not the cause of it.

I have seen a woman beating blue black by her husband. Not once not twice. Infact the man always use cane,belt etc on her. And she’s asked to keep praying. What if she die one day? What if she couldn’t take it any longer and tries to defend herself and kill her partner in the process, what will be her lot?

Women should take the necessary steps the moment they see that things are getting out of hand.

Try to see how you could save the situation by involving your spiritual leaders, your both families,the people your partner respects so much and if there’s no changes please take a break while you pray and take the necessary steps to save your marriage.

Pls note that your being away is for the mean time. Even while away you are to remain and keep your body. It’s not a time to go about messing up. If you do that you are commenting sin. You are to maintain sexual purity. Even when your partner is doing otherwise. The only time remarriage is possible is when one partner is dead. See Romans 7:2,1cor.7:39.

Neighbors should as well look out for their fellow women/men. Please speak out for them. Some of them are in a tight corner and can’t help themselves.

Stay tuned for the next post on this same topic!

Say no to domestic violence.

What’s your take on this? Share your opinion.
Will you allow your daughter, sister, brother,son go through domestic violence?
What will you have them do;the abused?

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By Oladimeji Ramon

A group, the Federal Social Democrats, says the credibility and integrity of the Lagos State Governor, Mr Babajide Sanwo-Olu, have been diminished by the alleged shooting of #EndSARS protesters by soldiers at the Lekki tollgate on the night of October 20.

According to the group, the Lekki incident has eroded the admiration that Sanwo-Olu won with his handling of the COVID-19 pandemic.

The group, in statement on Sunday signed on its behalf by Olutola Mobolurin, also condemned the harassment of #EndSARS protest leaders through the freezing of their bank accounts and stopping them from travelling outside the country.

The FSD’s statement was titled, ‘Statement by the Federal Social Democrats On the #EndSARS Movement and Violence in the Wake of Lekki Shootings.’

The group said, “Governor Sanwo-Olu, who before now has been credited with responsible and energetic response to the COVID-19 pandemic, has by this one act lost his credibility and integrity for many. He has a big task in regaining the confidence of the public and youths; his credibility gap surrounding what happened at the Lekki Toll Plaza is not helped by the insensitive bluster of Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu at the governor’s residence stating that those who were injured and presumably those who died had questions to answer.”

Though the group condemned the destruction of public assets and looting that trailed the shootings at the Lekki tollgate, it said the mayhem pointed to the alienation of a large number of youths from society by government.

It said, “The so-called hoodlums are the youths that have been denied any stake in society by the self-dealing and state capture that have characterised governance over the last 30 years. Millions of our youths have been uneducated, unemployable and with no meaningful social safety net. Even for the millions who are educated and skilled, long-term unemployment has been their experience in the Nigerian prebendal political economy that serves primarily the interests of public office holders and their cronies.

“Some of the ‘hoodlums’ responsible for the trashing of Lagos are the youths and ‘the toughies’ that many politicians have over the years employed to subvert the democratic process through intimidation of voters and perpetration of violence during elections.”

The group said the organisers of the #EndSARS protests deserved commendation for the resourcefulness, transparency and accountability which they demonstrated.

The group condemned “the growing reports of compilation of names of the assumed leaders and facilitators of the protests for government reprisals.”

It said, “Those that are being targeted are reportedly being prevented from travelling outside Nigeria while accounts of some have been frozen. This is hardly the hallmark of a democratic government that is interested in dialoguing with the youths or learning positive lessons from the #EndSARS protests. It is also a violation of the spirit of government’s acceptance of the 5 for 5 agenda. The President should stop all these acts of witch-hunt.”

The FSD solicited support for the Lagos State Government to rebuild and replace the vandalised public assets.

  • PunchNg

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• Nigeria’s Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala had been expected to be confirmed as leader on Monday

By Richard Partington

The race to find a new leader of the World Trade Organization has been thrown into renewed uncertainty after the cancellation of a key appointment meeting following the US presidential election.

The Geneva-based WTO, which acts as an international arbiter for trading disputes, said it had put off a meeting scheduled for Monday that had been called to appoint Nigeria’s Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala as its next director general.

Donald Trump’s administration opposed her selection in one of its final acts before the US election, despite the former Nigerian finance minister securing the overwhelming backing of the WTO’s 164 members.

The special meeting of the trade body’s general council had been convened to take a formal decision on the appointment. Officials had been set to put forward Dr Okonjo-Iweala as the candidate most likely to attract a majority, after most countries expressed a preference for her over South Korea’s Yoo Myung-hee.

Okonjo-Iweala had moved a step closer to becoming the first woman and the first African to be director of the global trade watchdog after securing backing from the EU, China, Japan and Australia. Liam Fox, the leading Brexiter and former international trade secretary, had run as the UK government’s preferred candidate but failed to win enough support from other countries to reach the last two in the process.

Trade experts said Joe Biden defeating Trump in last week’s election may have led to countries calling for a delay in the WTO leadership race, with the aim of securing the Biden White House’s backing for Okonjo-Iweala after he takes charge in January.

The delay in selecting a new WTO director general comes at a fragile moment for the world economy amid the second wave of Covid-19, and after years of criticism of the WTO and calls for reform from Trump.

The WTO said the meeting would be postponed until further notice, during which time the organisation would continue undertaking consultations with delegations from countries around the world to pick a new leader.

It said in a statement: “For reasons including the health situation and current events, delegations will not be in a position to take a formal decision on 9 November.”

  • TheGuardian

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