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Memoirs of a Borno Copa ( Based on a true life experience)
©️ Anuoluwapo Asaoye
Part 13

I got to the family house in the evening. I was super excited to see everyone especially my friends turned brothers,Almighty and Felix. I had a lot of questions to ask them about Bama Local Government but before I could start a conversation with them, Mercy another Corp member who stays in the family house collected my luggage from me and dragged me to one of the rooms and told me food was ready.

I am not hungry at all, besides why did you drag me out like that..I asked her. She burst into laughter, I became more confused. She calmed down and explained she was under instructions to take special care of me.
How and Why? I asked her confused …’Don’t you know you are special, you are the only female Corp member that is not serving in Maidugiri’.
It was another voice, I turned around to see who’s voice it was. Mamo, Mamo! I shouted and ran to hug her. We called her Mamo and called the President of the NCCF chapter ‘PaPa’. She hugged me so tightly and told me not to argue with Mercy that I really needed to eat that was after she examined me from head to toe and said I was looking so lean. I wanted to argue with her but I just smiled and collected the tray of tuwo sinkafa ( food made with rice flour) and Vegetable soup from Mercy.

We had a family meeting later and duties were shared and we spent time to pray for our Evangelistic outreach which was the next day. Almighty and I had time to talk a little after the prayer but he kept telling he needed to see the prayer co-ordinator that he felt we had not prayed enough. He left me where I was standing when he saw the prayer co-ordinator almost walking out of the Common room.

I just stood there reading messages on my phone. He came back some minutes after looking dejected. I asked Almighty what his response was,
he just shook his head and said he didn’t agree.
I encouraged him to pray more before he sleeps and he told me to join him in prayers too. I agreed and we parted for the night.

We were already informed that the trip will be up to 9 hours long so we had to leave early. We took off around 8 a.m in two 14 seaters buses and one NCCF marked Hilux Vehicle. All the EXco members were in the Hilux Vehicle which was driven by the President( papa). We prayed and the journey started.

Abraham(not his real name), the corp member who sat beside me made sure I was laughed through out the journey. He was so funny. At first, he was dancing and singing so loudly as he played popular Hausa gospel music via a Bluetooth speaker he borrowed from Mercy. He was even explaining the lyrics of the songs to me. Then later, he started to telling me stories about the various Local Governments or towns we passed.

The bus came to an halt at a Town. This is Chibok Local Government Copa Ruth ( that’s the name they called me), Abraham said. Why are we stopping, are we there already? No! We have about 4 hours left but we need to stretch our legs and relax a bit. Abraham explained further. Okay, thanks sir, I replied.

Our bus was the first to get there so we had to wait for others to arrive. We alighted from the bus and snacks were distributed.

Abraham and some other Male corp members entered into the farm close to the market and they came out minutes later with freshly uprooted carrots. I was amazed, it was my first time seeing freshly uprooted carrots. We rinsed the thoroughly till there was no trace of sand and we ate the carrots even though it didn’t go round, Abraham gave me two. I ate one and kept the other one in my bag, It was so delicious. I thanked Abraham profusely for the favour, he just smiled and continued eating.

We continued the trip, I was feeling so sleepy, and I dozed off while Abraham was telling me a story about a Fulani man and a corp member. One hour after, he tapped me announcing loudly that we were at Askira uba Local government. I wondered if that information was just for me or everybody. I couldn’t even sleep again. Abraham’s phone beeped, he answered the call and ordered the driver to stop and park. What happened? We were all asking at the same time. He said, the Hilux is not in sight anymore.

I didn’t know what to make of the information. Some people started praying, some alighted from the bus, I just sat there looking at Abraham.
Then his phone beeped again and when he answered the call, he shouted and burst into tears. I knew something bad had happened, Almighty and some other Corp members urged him to tell us what happened.
The Hilux, the Hilux, the Hilux…..he kept muttering amidst tears.
What happened to the Hilux, Felix asked. Terrible Accident, accident…..we need to pray…

To be continued
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Domestic violence is a violence or other abuse in a marriage.
Domestic violence could involve any body but I’m looking at it in a family setting between a man and his wife.

Domestic violence includes

  • Physical, verbal, emotional, economic, religion reproductive and sexual abuse.

Many people are going through a lot in marriages today, some Christan homes inclusive. This has caused a lot of harms in homes, churches and the society at large. So many women have lost their lives in the process,men inclusive but women are mostly at the receiving end. And they endure mostly even to the point of loosing their lives. This they do because of:

  1. The love they have for their spouse
  2. Because of their children
  3. What the society will say about them
  4. Because of their faith and religion.

Please when beating and sexual molestation becomes the case in your home, there’s need for separation.

Now in as much as the Bible frowns at divorce, I don’t think it’ll be reasonable for one to remain in an abusive marriage where his/her life is a stake. The same children you think about will still be maltreated, neglected and will be forced to face horrible situations the moment you are gone. The same society you are thinking of what they will say will still blame you for not speaking out on time. Your making heaven is even very slim because I don’t think your heart is clean in that condition. Your bad thoughts, unforgiveness and bitterness is enough to send you to hell. And instead of you to commit murder, I think you should separate if that’s the only option left.

Many women are going through alot. When a domestic violence involves life threatening abuses, there’s need for you to seek for help.

Many women have died in this process. Pls being born again doesn’t mean your brain should be suspended. Yes divorce is a sin but you shouldn’t die either because you are married. You are being asked to keep praying often times, yes but you could do that also while away. Many women are dying silently. Women please speak out in such conditions, don’t keep quiet. Make sure the problem is not from you. Make sure you are not the cause of it.

I have seen a woman beating blue black by her husband. Not once not twice. Infact the man always use cane,belt etc on her. And she’s asked to keep praying. What if she die one day? What if she couldn’t take it any longer and tries to defend herself and kill her partner in the process, what will be her lot?

Women should take the necessary steps the moment they see that things are getting out of hand.

Try to see how you could save the situation by involving your spiritual leaders, your both families,the people your partner respects so much and if there’s no changes please take a break while you pray and take the necessary steps to save your marriage.

Pls note that your being away is for the mean time. Even while away you are to remain and keep your body. It’s not a time to go about messing up. If you do that you are commenting sin. You are to maintain sexual purity. Even when your partner is doing otherwise. The only time remarriage is possible is when one partner is dead. See Romans 7:2,1cor.7:39.

Neighbors should as well look out for their fellow women/men. Please speak out for them. Some of them are in a tight corner and can’t help themselves.

Stay tuned for the next post on this same topic!

Say no to domestic violence.

What’s your take on this? Share your opinion.
Will you allow your daughter, sister, brother,son go through domestic violence?
What will you have them do;the abused?

By Chika Helen Nwabueze’

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By Oladimeji Ramon

A group, the Federal Social Democrats, says the credibility and integrity of the Lagos State Governor, Mr Babajide Sanwo-Olu, have been diminished by the alleged shooting of #EndSARS protesters by soldiers at the Lekki tollgate on the night of October 20.

According to the group, the Lekki incident has eroded the admiration that Sanwo-Olu won with his handling of the COVID-19 pandemic.

The group, in statement on Sunday signed on its behalf by Olutola Mobolurin, also condemned the harassment of #EndSARS protest leaders through the freezing of their bank accounts and stopping them from travelling outside the country.

The FSD’s statement was titled, ‘Statement by the Federal Social Democrats On the #EndSARS Movement and Violence in the Wake of Lekki Shootings.’

The group said, “Governor Sanwo-Olu, who before now has been credited with responsible and energetic response to the COVID-19 pandemic, has by this one act lost his credibility and integrity for many. He has a big task in regaining the confidence of the public and youths; his credibility gap surrounding what happened at the Lekki Toll Plaza is not helped by the insensitive bluster of Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu at the governor’s residence stating that those who were injured and presumably those who died had questions to answer.”

Though the group condemned the destruction of public assets and looting that trailed the shootings at the Lekki tollgate, it said the mayhem pointed to the alienation of a large number of youths from society by government.

It said, “The so-called hoodlums are the youths that have been denied any stake in society by the self-dealing and state capture that have characterised governance over the last 30 years. Millions of our youths have been uneducated, unemployable and with no meaningful social safety net. Even for the millions who are educated and skilled, long-term unemployment has been their experience in the Nigerian prebendal political economy that serves primarily the interests of public office holders and their cronies.

“Some of the ‘hoodlums’ responsible for the trashing of Lagos are the youths and ‘the toughies’ that many politicians have over the years employed to subvert the democratic process through intimidation of voters and perpetration of violence during elections.”

The group said the organisers of the #EndSARS protests deserved commendation for the resourcefulness, transparency and accountability which they demonstrated.

The group condemned “the growing reports of compilation of names of the assumed leaders and facilitators of the protests for government reprisals.”

It said, “Those that are being targeted are reportedly being prevented from travelling outside Nigeria while accounts of some have been frozen. This is hardly the hallmark of a democratic government that is interested in dialoguing with the youths or learning positive lessons from the #EndSARS protests. It is also a violation of the spirit of government’s acceptance of the 5 for 5 agenda. The President should stop all these acts of witch-hunt.”

The FSD solicited support for the Lagos State Government to rebuild and replace the vandalised public assets.

  • PunchNg

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• Nigeria’s Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala had been expected to be confirmed as leader on Monday

By Richard Partington

The race to find a new leader of the World Trade Organization has been thrown into renewed uncertainty after the cancellation of a key appointment meeting following the US presidential election.

The Geneva-based WTO, which acts as an international arbiter for trading disputes, said it had put off a meeting scheduled for Monday that had been called to appoint Nigeria’s Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala as its next director general.

Donald Trump’s administration opposed her selection in one of its final acts before the US election, despite the former Nigerian finance minister securing the overwhelming backing of the WTO’s 164 members.

The special meeting of the trade body’s general council had been convened to take a formal decision on the appointment. Officials had been set to put forward Dr Okonjo-Iweala as the candidate most likely to attract a majority, after most countries expressed a preference for her over South Korea’s Yoo Myung-hee.

Okonjo-Iweala had moved a step closer to becoming the first woman and the first African to be director of the global trade watchdog after securing backing from the EU, China, Japan and Australia. Liam Fox, the leading Brexiter and former international trade secretary, had run as the UK government’s preferred candidate but failed to win enough support from other countries to reach the last two in the process.

Trade experts said Joe Biden defeating Trump in last week’s election may have led to countries calling for a delay in the WTO leadership race, with the aim of securing the Biden White House’s backing for Okonjo-Iweala after he takes charge in January.

The delay in selecting a new WTO director general comes at a fragile moment for the world economy amid the second wave of Covid-19, and after years of criticism of the WTO and calls for reform from Trump.

The WTO said the meeting would be postponed until further notice, during which time the organisation would continue undertaking consultations with delegations from countries around the world to pick a new leader.

It said in a statement: “For reasons including the health situation and current events, delegations will not be in a position to take a formal decision on 9 November.”

  • TheGuardian

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