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Qaphela Gobodo!



Qaphela Gobodo!


I have always kept this boy’s photos on my phone to remind myself of the intricacies of human relationship.

And the anatomy of jealousy.

Of hatred.

And alloyed trust.

I remember how my heart macerated with unshed tears when I first read his story.

But then, it was a pedagogy of many things about life.

Qaphela Gobodo.

15 years old lad from a humble background in Wellington, Western Cape, South Africa.

But with a dream that was as tall as a steeple.

One of the most hardworking lads that the creator ever carved out of the dust of Wellington.

His biggest dream in life was to be a professional rugby player.

To play for Springboks.

That was the linchpin of his life!

And damn, did the young man throw his whole life force into it?

Yeah, he did!

And the results were quite alarming.

He was destined for great things.

He was the greatest rugby player in his school in Bergriver.

He became the first black captain of his school’s rugby team, and the first black student to play in the team.

He was the pride of Bergriver rugby team.

And then, his hard work brought him in very close proximity of his dream.

The big dream of playing for Springboks.

He won a rugby scholarship to Hoerskool Garsfontein, one of the most prestigious schools in Pretoria.

Through this scholarship his dream of making it to Springboks would be realized.

Family were proud.

He would be the light of the tribe.

The custodian of immortality.

And then he shared the news to his teammates, “Hey, guys, I’m one step away from Springboks! The dream is happening…”

But what he could not interpret was the jealousy that was hidden in their hearts.

Then one fateful afternoon, he took an excuse from class to go to the bathroom.

And while coming outside from there, a group of four boys attacked him.

One hit him with a golf stick on his head, and he fell into unconsciousness on the floor.

Then they poured paraffin on him, and set him ablaze.

They burnt him alive!

He lay on the ground for several minutes without knowing that he was burning alive.

And no one saw him.

When he regained consciousness several minutes later, he ran towards the principal’s office screaming for help.

With his body still on fire.

And everyone scared of getting close to him.

But he ran to the tap, opened it and went under it.

To subdue the fire.

And ambulance was called to take him to the hospital.

Everyone gave up on him. The burns were too severe and no one thought he could make it.

When his father saw him, he broke down in tears and said, “So, my son, you’re going to leave me at such a young age?”

When his sister saw him, she stood afar in tears and cried, “No, this is not my brother. This is not my brother… I want to see my brother.”

But Qaphela replied them, “Don’t be scared, I’m not going to die. No, I’m not going anywhere. I’m going to live, and I’m going to come back and play rugby.”

And God heard the faith of that brave lad.

Because if a man’s faith says “Yeah” even God Himself cannot say “Nay” to him.

20 surgeries were the number of surgeries he underwent in a space of four months.

Now the shocker!

Do you know the people that burnt Qaphela?

His teammates!

Though he couldn’t remember their faces after the shock of the attack.

The same friends he had shared the good news of his scholarship with.

The same friends he had shared his dream of Springboks with.

The same friends he thought were happy with him.

When he returned from the hospital, the scholarship was gone!

The dream of Springboks faded away.

Even though he tried to give himself to rugby again.

But things were never the same again

His scars would never allow him to have that dream again.


Because of friends he trusted with his secrets.

But then…his story has continued to touch the heart of a generation

Redefining the concept of trust for millions of people across Africa and beyond.

During one of his interviews, Qaphela said that his biggest mistake in life was learning too late that it is not every secret that is supposed to be shared with friends.

This is life!

And in life, we have to be careful of the kind of success stories we share with friends.

Especially when those successes are not yet mature.

Because the truth is, not every friend is going to be happy with your success, even though they might pretend to be in your presence.

Not every friend is happy that you are going farther than them in life.

Many friends see you as a competitor, and once they see that you have gone ahead of them, they begin to hate on you.

And start looking for ways to bring you down.

It’s a messed up world.

It’s alright to trust people.

But then, learn to keep your secrets to yourself.

Sometimes, you don’t have to tell people the plans you are making in life when those plans are still at early stages.

We will never be able to know who truly wishes us well, and who don’t.

For the ones we call best friends might actually be the biggest enemies we have around us.

Never let your guard down.

Never trust someone so deeply to the level that you give them the power to destroy you.

If they know all your secrets, then they can destroy you.

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Domestic violence is a violence or other abuse in a marriage.
Domestic violence could involve any body but I’m looking at it in a family setting between a man and his wife.

Domestic violence includes

  • Physical, verbal, emotional, economic, religion reproductive and sexual abuse.

Many people are going through a lot in marriages today, some Christan homes inclusive. This has caused a lot of harms in homes, churches and the society at large. So many women have lost their lives in the process,men inclusive but women are mostly at the receiving end. And they endure mostly even to the point of loosing their lives. This they do because of:

  1. The love they have for their spouse
  2. Because of their children
  3. What the society will say about them
  4. Because of their faith and religion.

Please when beating and sexual molestation becomes the case in your home, there’s need for separation.

Now in as much as the Bible frowns at divorce, I don’t think it’ll be reasonable for one to remain in an abusive marriage where his/her life is a stake. The same children you think about will still be maltreated, neglected and will be forced to face horrible situations the moment you are gone. The same society you are thinking of what they will say will still blame you for not speaking out on time. Your making heaven is even very slim because I don’t think your heart is clean in that condition. Your bad thoughts, unforgiveness and bitterness is enough to send you to hell. And instead of you to commit murder, I think you should separate if that’s the only option left.

Many women are going through alot. When a domestic violence involves life threatening abuses, there’s need for you to seek for help.

Many women have died in this process. Pls being born again doesn’t mean your brain should be suspended. Yes divorce is a sin but you shouldn’t die either because you are married. You are being asked to keep praying often times, yes but you could do that also while away. Many women are dying silently. Women please speak out in such conditions, don’t keep quiet. Make sure the problem is not from you. Make sure you are not the cause of it.

I have seen a woman beating blue black by her husband. Not once not twice. Infact the man always use cane,belt etc on her. And she’s asked to keep praying. What if she die one day? What if she couldn’t take it any longer and tries to defend herself and kill her partner in the process, what will be her lot?

Women should take the necessary steps the moment they see that things are getting out of hand.

Try to see how you could save the situation by involving your spiritual leaders, your both families,the people your partner respects so much and if there’s no changes please take a break while you pray and take the necessary steps to save your marriage.

Pls note that your being away is for the mean time. Even while away you are to remain and keep your body. It’s not a time to go about messing up. If you do that you are commenting sin. You are to maintain sexual purity. Even when your partner is doing otherwise. The only time remarriage is possible is when one partner is dead. See Romans 7:2,1cor.7:39.

Neighbors should as well look out for their fellow women/men. Please speak out for them. Some of them are in a tight corner and can’t help themselves.

Stay tuned for the next post on this same topic!

Say no to domestic violence.

What’s your take on this? Share your opinion.
Will you allow your daughter, sister, brother,son go through domestic violence?
What will you have them do;the abused?

By Chika Helen Nwabueze’

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By Oladimeji Ramon

A group, the Federal Social Democrats, says the credibility and integrity of the Lagos State Governor, Mr Babajide Sanwo-Olu, have been diminished by the alleged shooting of #EndSARS protesters by soldiers at the Lekki tollgate on the night of October 20.

According to the group, the Lekki incident has eroded the admiration that Sanwo-Olu won with his handling of the COVID-19 pandemic.

The group, in statement on Sunday signed on its behalf by Olutola Mobolurin, also condemned the harassment of #EndSARS protest leaders through the freezing of their bank accounts and stopping them from travelling outside the country.

The FSD’s statement was titled, ‘Statement by the Federal Social Democrats On the #EndSARS Movement and Violence in the Wake of Lekki Shootings.’

The group said, “Governor Sanwo-Olu, who before now has been credited with responsible and energetic response to the COVID-19 pandemic, has by this one act lost his credibility and integrity for many. He has a big task in regaining the confidence of the public and youths; his credibility gap surrounding what happened at the Lekki Toll Plaza is not helped by the insensitive bluster of Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu at the governor’s residence stating that those who were injured and presumably those who died had questions to answer.”

Though the group condemned the destruction of public assets and looting that trailed the shootings at the Lekki tollgate, it said the mayhem pointed to the alienation of a large number of youths from society by government.

It said, “The so-called hoodlums are the youths that have been denied any stake in society by the self-dealing and state capture that have characterised governance over the last 30 years. Millions of our youths have been uneducated, unemployable and with no meaningful social safety net. Even for the millions who are educated and skilled, long-term unemployment has been their experience in the Nigerian prebendal political economy that serves primarily the interests of public office holders and their cronies.

“Some of the ‘hoodlums’ responsible for the trashing of Lagos are the youths and ‘the toughies’ that many politicians have over the years employed to subvert the democratic process through intimidation of voters and perpetration of violence during elections.”

The group said the organisers of the #EndSARS protests deserved commendation for the resourcefulness, transparency and accountability which they demonstrated.

The group condemned “the growing reports of compilation of names of the assumed leaders and facilitators of the protests for government reprisals.”

It said, “Those that are being targeted are reportedly being prevented from travelling outside Nigeria while accounts of some have been frozen. This is hardly the hallmark of a democratic government that is interested in dialoguing with the youths or learning positive lessons from the #EndSARS protests. It is also a violation of the spirit of government’s acceptance of the 5 for 5 agenda. The President should stop all these acts of witch-hunt.”

The FSD solicited support for the Lagos State Government to rebuild and replace the vandalised public assets.

  • PunchNg

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• Nigeria’s Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala had been expected to be confirmed as leader on Monday

By Richard Partington

The race to find a new leader of the World Trade Organization has been thrown into renewed uncertainty after the cancellation of a key appointment meeting following the US presidential election.

The Geneva-based WTO, which acts as an international arbiter for trading disputes, said it had put off a meeting scheduled for Monday that had been called to appoint Nigeria’s Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala as its next director general.

Donald Trump’s administration opposed her selection in one of its final acts before the US election, despite the former Nigerian finance minister securing the overwhelming backing of the WTO’s 164 members.

The special meeting of the trade body’s general council had been convened to take a formal decision on the appointment. Officials had been set to put forward Dr Okonjo-Iweala as the candidate most likely to attract a majority, after most countries expressed a preference for her over South Korea’s Yoo Myung-hee.

Okonjo-Iweala had moved a step closer to becoming the first woman and the first African to be director of the global trade watchdog after securing backing from the EU, China, Japan and Australia. Liam Fox, the leading Brexiter and former international trade secretary, had run as the UK government’s preferred candidate but failed to win enough support from other countries to reach the last two in the process.

Trade experts said Joe Biden defeating Trump in last week’s election may have led to countries calling for a delay in the WTO leadership race, with the aim of securing the Biden White House’s backing for Okonjo-Iweala after he takes charge in January.

The delay in selecting a new WTO director general comes at a fragile moment for the world economy amid the second wave of Covid-19, and after years of criticism of the WTO and calls for reform from Trump.

The WTO said the meeting would be postponed until further notice, during which time the organisation would continue undertaking consultations with delegations from countries around the world to pick a new leader.

It said in a statement: “For reasons including the health situation and current events, delegations will not be in a position to take a formal decision on 9 November.”

  • TheGuardian

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