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⛔STOP CRUCIFYING YOU⛔

Oftentimes, we seek the forgiveness of those we have offended and also try to forgive those who have wronged us BUT WHAT ABOUT YOU?
HAVE YOU FORGIVEN YOURSELF FOR THOSE MISTAKES THAT YOU MADE?

When you have a working conscience, it is easy to ask for forgiveness.
When you are empathetic, it is easy to extend forgiveness to others.
When you have a conscience and are also very empathetic, what happens to you?

It is bad enough to realize your mistake but it is even worse when you are able to put yourself in the shoes of those you’ve hurt and you see exactly how much they’re hurting.
As a result, you become DROWNED IN GUILT.

“If I hadn’t done this, this person wouldn’t have been hurting this much”
“I know it would not have gotten to this if I hadn’t…”
“It is all my fault because I…”

We can go on and on…
YOU FEEL HORRIBLE.
Sometimes you wish you were not born because you wouldn’t have done something that horrible if you never existed.

It is a bit relieving when the people you offended forgive you.
The feeling of being forgiven is unparalleled.
Knowing that your wrongs are no longer held against you is one of the best feelings in the world.

But what happens when the person decides to withhold forgiveness from you?
You are already in a horrible mental state because you are able to feel that person’s hurts and you have tried everything possible to show how sorry you are but the forgiveness is not forthcoming.
So many people are in this state right now; of craving and dire need of forgiveness.

Now, what if your mistake affects you personally?
Let’s say, you had an abortion.
You may be the only person who knows about this or someone else knows but you are the casualty here.

You wish you hadn’t engaged in that intercourse that led to the pregnancy which led to an abortion. You even wish you hadn’t met that person in the first place.
You may even go as far as wishing you weren’t born.

You know, when you are not forgiven, you find it hard to forgive yourself because when you want to move on, you remember that mistake and the fact that that person is still angry with you.
Or you remember that pain you caused yourself and you just sit back and WALLOW IN SELF GUILT.

YOU HAVE BEEN IN THAT DEPLORABLE STATE LONG ENOUGH. IT IS TIME TO BE FREE!

Stop crucifying yourself.
Stop hurting yourself the more by reminiscing about your mistakes.

Forgive yourself for ALL your mistakes, no matter how bad.
You say, “Chinaza, you have no idea what I have done. I have done terrible things”
Darling, I may not know what you have done but there is one thing that I know; YOU CANNOT TURN THE HANDS OF TIME.
You cannot go back in time.

Forgive yourself for those terrible decisions that you made.
Forgive yourself for the kind of association you kept.
Forgive yourself for not knowing better at the time.
YOU CANNOT RECEIVE ANYTHING NEW IF YOUR HANDS ARE FILLED WITH YESTERDAY’S JUNKS.

It is also not about you, it’s about the lives that will be transformed by your story.
It is about the lives that will be changed simply because you chose to forgive yourself.
It is about how much you can achieve because you are able to shed the weight of guilt that is holding you down.
It is about how high you can fly and soar!

It is very much about JESUS!

Today, I want you to listen to the voice of the Spirit. Listen to the loving voice of Jesus saying “You are forgiven”.
Whether or not you have been forgiven by those people, Jesus loves you.
Whether your mistakes are too bad that you can’t even forgive yourself, Jesus loves you.
And He extends Mercy and Grace to all who will come to Him.

The person you hurt may not have forgiven but Jesus is willing to forgive you.
He is willing to turn your terrible past to a glorious story.
He is willing to make beauty out of your ashes.
That is why He came!
You are the reason He died!
Your terrible past is the reason He was crucified so you don’t have to crucify yourself!
Why kill yourself when Jesus was killed on your behalf?

“Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest.”[NLT]

“Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.” [KJV]
[Matthew 11:28]

Heavy laden with guilt.
Heavy laden with shame.
Burdened regret.
Burdened with self-reproach.

At the feet of Jesus, there is lifting of all heaviness.
Run to Him now.
Leverage on His crucifixion, His death, His shame.
Find mercy that interceeds.
Find grace that overshadows.
Find peace that overflows.
Find joy that overwhelms.

Live again.

If this post blessed you, do well to share. This might be just what someone on your timeline needs to live again.

God bless you🙏
Have a guilt-free week.
🥂 to your best life in the love of Christ.

©️Chinaza Favour

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN TODAY’S MARRIAGE; WHAT SHOULD I DO IF I’M IN SUCH CONDITION AS A BELIEVER?

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN TODAY’S MARRIAGE; WHAT SHOULD I DO IF I’M IN SUCH CONDITION AS A BELIEVER?

Domestic violence is a violence or other abuse in a marriage.
Domestic violence could involve any body but I’m looking at it in a family setting between a man and his wife.

Domestic violence includes

  • Physical, verbal, emotional, economic, religion reproductive and sexual abuse.

Many people are going through a lot in marriages today, some Christan homes inclusive. This has caused a lot of harms in homes, churches and the society at large. So many women have lost their lives in the process,men inclusive but women are mostly at the receiving end. And they endure mostly even to the point of loosing their lives. This they do because of:

  1. The love they have for their spouse
  2. Because of their children
  3. What the society will say about them
  4. Because of their faith and religion.

Please when beating and sexual molestation becomes the case in your home, there’s need for separation.

Now in as much as the Bible frowns at divorce, I don’t think it’ll be reasonable for one to remain in an abusive marriage where his/her life is a stake. The same children you think about will still be maltreated, neglected and will be forced to face horrible situations the moment you are gone. The same society you are thinking of what they will say will still blame you for not speaking out on time. Your making heaven is even very slim because I don’t think your heart is clean in that condition. Your bad thoughts, unforgiveness and bitterness is enough to send you to hell. And instead of you to commit murder, I think you should separate if that’s the only option left.

Many women are going through alot. When a domestic violence involves life threatening abuses, there’s need for you to seek for help.

Many women have died in this process. Pls being born again doesn’t mean your brain should be suspended. Yes divorce is a sin but you shouldn’t die either because you are married. You are being asked to keep praying often times, yes but you could do that also while away. Many women are dying silently. Women please speak out in such conditions, don’t keep quiet. Make sure the problem is not from you. Make sure you are not the cause of it.

I have seen a woman beating blue black by her husband. Not once not twice. Infact the man always use cane,belt etc on her. And she’s asked to keep praying. What if she die one day? What if she couldn’t take it any longer and tries to defend herself and kill her partner in the process, what will be her lot?

Women should take the necessary steps the moment they see that things are getting out of hand.

Try to see how you could save the situation by involving your spiritual leaders, your both families,the people your partner respects so much and if there’s no changes please take a break while you pray and take the necessary steps to save your marriage.

Pls note that your being away is for the mean time. Even while away you are to remain and keep your body. It’s not a time to go about messing up. If you do that you are commenting sin. You are to maintain sexual purity. Even when your partner is doing otherwise. The only time remarriage is possible is when one partner is dead. See Romans 7:2,1cor.7:39.

Neighbors should as well look out for their fellow women/men. Please speak out for them. Some of them are in a tight corner and can’t help themselves.

Stay tuned for the next post on this same topic!

Say no to domestic violence.

What’s your take on this? Share your opinion.
Will you allow your daughter, sister, brother,son go through domestic violence?
What will you have them do;the abused?

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LEKKI SHOOTINGS: SANWO-OLU HAS LOST CREDIBILITY, SAYS FSD

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LEKKI SHOOTINGS: SANWO-OLU HAS LOST CREDIBILITY, SAYS FSD

By Oladimeji Ramon

A group, the Federal Social Democrats, says the credibility and integrity of the Lagos State Governor, Mr Babajide Sanwo-Olu, have been diminished by the alleged shooting of #EndSARS protesters by soldiers at the Lekki tollgate on the night of October 20.

According to the group, the Lekki incident has eroded the admiration that Sanwo-Olu won with his handling of the COVID-19 pandemic.

The group, in statement on Sunday signed on its behalf by Olutola Mobolurin, also condemned the harassment of #EndSARS protest leaders through the freezing of their bank accounts and stopping them from travelling outside the country.

The FSD’s statement was titled, ‘Statement by the Federal Social Democrats On the #EndSARS Movement and Violence in the Wake of Lekki Shootings.’

The group said, “Governor Sanwo-Olu, who before now has been credited with responsible and energetic response to the COVID-19 pandemic, has by this one act lost his credibility and integrity for many. He has a big task in regaining the confidence of the public and youths; his credibility gap surrounding what happened at the Lekki Toll Plaza is not helped by the insensitive bluster of Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu at the governor’s residence stating that those who were injured and presumably those who died had questions to answer.”

Though the group condemned the destruction of public assets and looting that trailed the shootings at the Lekki tollgate, it said the mayhem pointed to the alienation of a large number of youths from society by government.

It said, “The so-called hoodlums are the youths that have been denied any stake in society by the self-dealing and state capture that have characterised governance over the last 30 years. Millions of our youths have been uneducated, unemployable and with no meaningful social safety net. Even for the millions who are educated and skilled, long-term unemployment has been their experience in the Nigerian prebendal political economy that serves primarily the interests of public office holders and their cronies.

“Some of the ‘hoodlums’ responsible for the trashing of Lagos are the youths and ‘the toughies’ that many politicians have over the years employed to subvert the democratic process through intimidation of voters and perpetration of violence during elections.”

The group said the organisers of the #EndSARS protests deserved commendation for the resourcefulness, transparency and accountability which they demonstrated.

The group condemned “the growing reports of compilation of names of the assumed leaders and facilitators of the protests for government reprisals.”

It said, “Those that are being targeted are reportedly being prevented from travelling outside Nigeria while accounts of some have been frozen. This is hardly the hallmark of a democratic government that is interested in dialoguing with the youths or learning positive lessons from the #EndSARS protests. It is also a violation of the spirit of government’s acceptance of the 5 for 5 agenda. The President should stop all these acts of witch-hunt.”

The FSD solicited support for the Lagos State Government to rebuild and replace the vandalised public assets.

  • PunchNg

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APPOINTMENT OF WTO CHIEF IN DOUBT AFTER KEY MEETING CANCELLED

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APPOINTMENT OF WTO CHIEF IN DOUBT AFTER KEY MEETING CANCELLED

• Nigeria’s Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala had been expected to be confirmed as leader on Monday

By Richard Partington

The race to find a new leader of the World Trade Organization has been thrown into renewed uncertainty after the cancellation of a key appointment meeting following the US presidential election.

The Geneva-based WTO, which acts as an international arbiter for trading disputes, said it had put off a meeting scheduled for Monday that had been called to appoint Nigeria’s Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala as its next director general.

Donald Trump’s administration opposed her selection in one of its final acts before the US election, despite the former Nigerian finance minister securing the overwhelming backing of the WTO’s 164 members.

The special meeting of the trade body’s general council had been convened to take a formal decision on the appointment. Officials had been set to put forward Dr Okonjo-Iweala as the candidate most likely to attract a majority, after most countries expressed a preference for her over South Korea’s Yoo Myung-hee.

Okonjo-Iweala had moved a step closer to becoming the first woman and the first African to be director of the global trade watchdog after securing backing from the EU, China, Japan and Australia. Liam Fox, the leading Brexiter and former international trade secretary, had run as the UK government’s preferred candidate but failed to win enough support from other countries to reach the last two in the process.

Trade experts said Joe Biden defeating Trump in last week’s election may have led to countries calling for a delay in the WTO leadership race, with the aim of securing the Biden White House’s backing for Okonjo-Iweala after he takes charge in January.

The delay in selecting a new WTO director general comes at a fragile moment for the world economy amid the second wave of Covid-19, and after years of criticism of the WTO and calls for reform from Trump.

The WTO said the meeting would be postponed until further notice, during which time the organisation would continue undertaking consultations with delegations from countries around the world to pick a new leader.

It said in a statement: “For reasons including the health situation and current events, delegations will not be in a position to take a formal decision on 9 November.”

  • TheGuardian

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